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My thoughts on imaginary lesbianism - Her Most Regal Majesty, the Queen of Snark
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My thoughts on imaginary lesbianism
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ar_gemlad From: ar_gemlad Date: November 8th, 2007 04:29 pm (UTC) (Link)
More thoughts (my thought processes have been quite random today, so this might actually contradict what I said earlier!):

She has a 'right' to call herself lesbian (I also dislike the word 'right') - assuming she wants other lesbians to think she's available, if you see what I mean. If she called herself bisexual but then turned every man down then that would be a miscommunication.

Again, I still don't see why you'd want to label yourself something which isn't relevant because of a relationship - it's like saying I'm interested in men on Facebook, whereas really I'm only interested in my husband.
Saying that though, sexual preferences are seen as more defining to some people than they do to me.
sesquipedality From: sesquipedality Date: November 8th, 2007 04:35 pm (UTC) (Link)
But but but ... sexuality says nothing about availability. It just says what you like. If a married man told me he was heterosexual I wouldn't assume he wanted to sleep with anyone other than his wife.
ar_gemlad From: ar_gemlad Date: November 8th, 2007 04:39 pm (UTC) (Link)
No - but my point was that there's no need (as far as I can see) to communicate sexual preferences unless you're looking for a relationship.

But then again, I think in formulating my argument more succinctly, I now disagree with my own point of view. Erm - out of cheese error - redo from start.

Follow her - she speaks in sentences!
undyingking From: undyingking Date: November 8th, 2007 04:45 pm (UTC) (Link)
there's no need (as far as I can see) to communicate sexual preferences unless you're looking for a relationship

Well, you probably wouldn't go around shouting about them, but all the same you may be asked about them or whatever.

Eg. I still would say I'm vegetarian, even when I'm not hungry.
ar_gemlad From: ar_gemlad Date: November 8th, 2007 05:14 pm (UTC) (Link)
See reply to taimatsu's comment.
taimatsu From: taimatsu Date: November 8th, 2007 05:01 pm (UTC) (Link)
there's no need (as far as I can see) to communicate sexual preferences unless you're looking for a relationship.

There is if, for example, one is part of a sexual minority and wants to make a political statement, be an activist, or raise awareness of sexuality issues.
ar_gemlad From: ar_gemlad Date: November 8th, 2007 05:13 pm (UTC) (Link)
Yep - that just about sums up why my argument was shonky.
sion_a From: sion_a Date: November 8th, 2007 05:24 pm (UTC) (Link)
This is also a situation in which you might very much want to label yourself—to raise visibility of the label and what it denotes.
ewx From: ewx Date: November 8th, 2007 06:15 pm (UTC) (Link)
Gossip is another important context in which descriptions of sexuality turn up.
cov_cloud From: cov_cloud Date: November 8th, 2007 08:36 pm (UTC) (Link)
or be disscussing your personal history with a new confidant.
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